Friday, September 21, 2012

Down & Out (The reality of buying a home)

Justin and I have been trying to close on a home for nearly a month now. a MONTH. Doesn't sound that bad but it. is. TORTURE. We found this home in South Jordan that was a foreclosure. It came on the market August 22nd (I think). Here's our timeline so far:

August 22nd: View home, put offer in on home
August 23rd: We are told there are multiple offers (ugh!) and we need to give our best and highest offer. So we submit our highest offer.
August 24th: All offers were due this day by 1pm. We were told after this period there would be 48 hours then the bank would have their selected buyer.
August 25-29: We wait. Well past 48 hours. Excrutiating.
August 30th: I attended the foreclosure auction for the condo we are living in now. It was sold back to Fannie Mae. After the auction I come home and we find out we were the selected buyers! Finally!
August 30-September 10: We have a our due diligence time period. September 6th we had our home inspection, the home is in great shape. September 7th the appraiser was sent to our home and conducted the appraisal.  September 9th we attended Sacrament meeting at our new ward. It is a much older ward that's for sure. I think the woman who looked most similar in age to me was actually in Young Womens (meaning she wasn't any older than 18). But hopefully it means plenty of babysitters for Caleb!
September 10: Our realtor confirms with us that we do want to continue with the purchase since it was the end of our due diligence period.
September 14th: The appraisal comes back $6,000 less than our offer price. We wait for the banks response.
September 18th: Bank responds that they'll lower the price of the house but will not cover all the closing costs. :-(
September 19th: We put in our new amendment to the bank that includes the new cost of the house and the amount of closing costs we will be paying (We just agreed to the bank's offer).
September 20-21: We are still. stinkin'. waiting. I HATE the wait!

Basically all that needs to happen at this point is the bank signs the contract, we send everything to the title company and they need to look at things for 48 hours then everything goes to Provident Funding (our loan company) and they have to look at everything for 48 hours, THEN everything has to be officially recorded which take 24 hours... and where does that put us? Most likely not getting the keys until October 1st or 2nd. Which means we will have 3 or 4 short days to demo a wall, put in new railing, clean the house top to bottom, put in new carpet and paint. Because we, of course, have signed a contract to be out of our condo by October 7th. Each day that passes my stress level rises significantly. I know after all is said and done things will work out. I just can't understand why all the involved parties have to be SO SLOW with their reviews/approvals of things. And I'm sure the fact that we are purchasing a foreclosed home is causing more headaches then if we were buying a home from a normal seller. But such is life.

Now to the home... I love it. I couldn't imagine us moving into a newly constructed home (the kind where the finishes are all perfect, the flooring is brand new, the kitchen is great)... yeah a newly constructed home sounds ideal pretty much but something about that idea didn't sit well with me. I think I really want to start with a home where we can add value and equity and I can make it my own. I grew up painting rooms in our home and always wanting to taking on a home improvement project so I think that must be at the root of my thoughts. But this home was built in 1998 so it isn't a total fixer upper. By painting, putting in new flooring, changing out the finishes on the hardware, things like that, I think the home will look great. But that is the fun thing about the home, I know we won't be doing all these changes right away so we are going to have a project to do probably all the time, which for some reason makes me really happy. The location is perfect. We are minutes away from Jordan Landing, probably 2 minutes away (or less) from the Trax station and 2 miles away from my sister and her family. AND our neighborhood is probably the best we have seen while house hunting. Everyone maintains their yards and home and the neighborhood is centered around this great park (probably a 5-10 minute walk from our house) and there are sidewalks everywhere. AND our church building is probably a 5 minute walk from our house. And we are in a cul-de-sac and its super quiet (so happy to not have people living below and beside us finally!).

As soon as we get the keys things are going to be in mad-dash mode. So I guess maybe I should try and enjoy this weekend and next week since they'll be the most calm we'll have in a while. But I am so looking forward to mayhem if it means we'll be in our home! I'll post pictures as soon as we get the keys and move in!

15 months

Caleb turned 15 months yesterday, can't believe he is already so old! We had his 15 month check up on Wednesday, here are his stats:
-Height: 29 1/2 " (5th percentile)
-Weight: 21.4 lbs (27th percentile)
-Head circumference: 45 1/4" (12th percentile)

The doctor was impressed with his weight gain, I thought he would weigh more more! He seems like a solid brick to carry around these days and he eats like its always his last meal. I am so grateful he hasn't become a picky eater (yet, at least).

Caleb is still working with the physical therapist from Kids on the Move. She has been coming usually every other week and working with him on getting onto all fours and crawling around, standing at surfaces and shifting his weight back and forth and overall just getting him more comfortable and confident with moving in different positions. He has been making improvements, which are more obvious to our therapist but he is now getting around by scooting on his bum. It takes so much more effort to move this way than crawling but silly man doesn't understand that. He loves walking around when we hold onto his hands. He loves to stand at surfaces and is beginning to take a few steps around a table or our recliner. I think he has the strength to do whatever he wants to do, its more a confidence thing. He seems to be afraid of falling and unsure of what to do sometimes.

This picture was taken several days ago but is the most recent we've taken. (It was for my sister's birthday card)
C's pediatrician isn't worried with his development. He has 3 of his 4 daughters that he always references, as they were slow developers and didn't crawl until after they were 15 months. The main thing that indicates learning development, says pediatrician, is the speech development. Right now Caleb says "Dad" and "Mom" all the time but other than that he repeats vowels over and over.  We'll see how his speech develops. I have my days where I really worry about him, I just want him to be happy and healthy now and in the future. But then more often than those down days, I just feel so grateful for him. He is so incredibly sweet and silly and a joy! I love being able to stay home and spend so much time with him.

Friday, August 3, 2012

Kids On The Move

Our sweet Caleb is starting physical therapy next week for his gross motor development. Although he sits up great and even rotates 360' on his bum, he hasn't got the hang of crawling or cruising yet. Our pediatrician mentioned KOTM, an early intervention program that works with the Alpine school district, at Caleb's 12 month check up. I gave them a call, they came out to assess Caleb, and due to his low percentages in the gross motor assessment he is eligible for their services. So basically a physical therapist is going to come to our home twice a month to work with Caleb and the goals we set for him. Over the next six months we set goals for Caleb to be able to transition into/out of siting position, into/out of standing position, crawl (in some form or another), and begin to walk with assistance. I am really excited to get Caleb started with this program and have high hopes for his development. His diagnosis at this point is slightly low muscle tone through his arms and back. Which could just be attributed to the fact that I wasn't diligent with Caleb's tummy time in his early months or it may be linked to another issue that will manifest itself further down the road. Time will tell!

But Caleb is still growing and developing... here are some of his latest feats:
...We have been walking with Caleb much more now, letting him hold onto both of our hands. At first he didn't understand how to move his feet but now he walks great. He loves when we go walking with him! Along with walking, he loves standing at furniture and playing with a toy. He does it mostly at our death-trap of a coffee table, so I have to stay very close to him especially since his balance isn't all the way on par just yet.
...When we were in North Carolina Caleb was forced to overcome his attachment-prone behavior he had developed. Since I couldn't hold him much, it was my mom, sister or a relative holding him. At first Caleb was shy but by the middle of our trip he was loving it and putting his arms out to anyone! On our flight back to SLC he actually reached over and started hugging a stranger sitting next to me. Silly boy!
...Caleb also got his first top front tooth in NC. It's slowly making its way down and I can see his other top front tooth is not far behind.
...Caleb is a great eater all of a sudden! He eats everything and in large quantities. I didn't realize just how much he could eat until we had lots of food to choose from in NC. Apparently my 1/2 PB&Js weren't quite enough for him, unbeknownst to me!
...Caleb is blabbering a lot these days. This week he's really honed in on "mamama". Especially when he's upset and wanting me, which makes me think he's starting to make a connection with the word and me, hooray!
...He is such a smiley  and happy boy. All I have to do is look at him and he gives me the cutest, toothy smile. We love him so much!

Wednesday, August 1, 2012

Lately, part 1: ER to OR

The last couple of weeks have been wild. Amidst packing for a trip East I surprisingly found out I was pregnant. Since we aren't proactively trying to expand our family just yet, Justin and I were in shock. I'm not sure if I've written on my blog before about our experiences with trying to start our family but it took longer than expected. October 2010 I had a nasty experience with an ectopic pregnancy that was resolved with a methotrexate shot. Then nearly a year later, August 2011, I had what I thought was another ectopic pregnancy that dissolved on its own but I'm still not sure if it was that or a miscarriage. Both pregnancies ended around the 6-7 week mark. However when I got pregnant successfully with Caleb the following month I didn't feel any of the sharp, stabing pains on my right side as I had with the other pregnancies and things were smooth sailing. Anyway, I found out this month on the 19th that I was pregnant and almost immediately started to feel the pains on my right side. They weren't severe but given my history I called my doctor and wanted to have an ultrasound before we were flying to Virginia (morning of the 21st).

The doctor was able to squeeze me in around lunch time for an ultrasound. I packed up Caleb and went to my doctor, waited in the cold ultrasound room for a while, then after two different types of ultrasounds we were unable to see any signs of pregnancy in my uterus. I totally expected that. Again, given my history, I am not extremely emotional or hopeful at the beginning of a pregnancy-especially one that was a surprise! All along I am thinking, it's an ecoptic pregnancy, just go ahead and give me the shot and call it good, please! Instead the doctor orders an ultrasound be done at the hospital and quants be taken and assessed of my HCG levels. Thankfully my sister was able to come down to be with me at the hospital and her sweet husband took off work to come watch Caleb at my apartment-that was such a blessing! After waiting for a while and having two other unpleasant ultrasounds, the radiologist presumed I had a hemorrhagic cyst on my right ovary. I had my blood drawn then went home and rested.

On the 20th I had to go back for my 2nd blood testing. Oddly enough the pain on my right side subsided completely on this day and I felt back to normal, albeit rather tired. I continued packing for the trip I was taking the next morning. The results came back from my blood work and my HCG levels had nearly doubled in 24 hours. Typically the levels will double every 48 hours, so my doctor considered this a strong sign for a normal pregnancy with a cyst causing problems and I should just keep an eye on things. So on the 20th I thought things were normal.

Early in the morning on the 21st (around 2am) I woke up with the pains on my right side. I had a small amount of panic inside of me that I wasn't going to be traveling that morning at 10am and I hated the idea of missing my flight, changing my flight, missing my trip etc.  But after I called the doctor on call, he told me to head to the ER for another ultrasound. So at 3am I headed into the ER. They suit you up well in the ER, without reason from what I could tell they hooked me up to an IV almost immediately and then I waited for the ultrasound technician to come. After two other very unpleasant ultrasounds, they still couldn't find my pregnancy. Not in the tube, not in the uterus and so they were perplexed. The ER doctor came in and said they were most likely going to give it more time to see if the pregnancy would manifest itself somewhere and give me some pain medication so traveling could be bearable. So at 5am I was thinking I would make my flight after all. Then a few minutes later one of my ob/gyn doctors came in and delivered the news that it was an ectopic pregnancy on my right side and they would actually need to remove my right fallopian tube via laparoscopic surgery. Devastation! Not only was I crushed about having to have surgery that morning and missing my flight I was crushed because I thought I could have another shot and call it good, I desperately didn't want to lose a tube from this situation. My doctor explained that since it was my 2nd ectopic they have to remove the malfunctioning tube as to prevent future ectopic pregnancies since they are so life-threatening. After the initial let down of the news, I came to accept it and move on in my mind. Better to have it removed than risk the pain and complications in the future. So I called my family and told them, I called Justin and he headed over to the hospital to be with me through surgery. Our good friends in the ward were able to watch Caleb that morning.

We waited for an appendectomy to finish up then I was given the anesthesia and wheeled into the OR. I don't remember much, I passed out pretty quickly. The doctor spoke to Justin afterwards though and told him my right tube was swollen and they could tell the pregnancy was in it. But my left tube looked great. (They had told me from the beginning that having this tube removed would in no way affect my fertility. In fact the left tube is able to stretch itself over to my right ovary during the months I ovulate on my right side...we'll see how it goes with getting pregnant in the future). The worst part after surgery was how sore my throat was from the intubation and how intense the pain was in my shoulders from the air they had pumped into my body. Apparently the air bubbles stay encased inside your body until they naturally are released, but it was insane how much it hurt. The surgery was just laparoscopic, with three small incisions. One in my belly button, one at my bikini line and one on my lower left abdomen. The incisions weren't all that sore but overall the surgery just made my body feel sore and tired. We stayed at the hospital for a few hours then were discharged around 4pm. I went home that evening and rested.

Meanwhile my sister and her two kids had made that morning's flight into Virginia. I hated I missed it and that she had to travel by herself. But quickly after surgery we started making plans on how I was going to get back to Virginia for the trip we had been planning all along. Logically it made the most sense that I still went back to be with family through my recovery. Justin isn't quite yet comfortable taking work off at Goldman so I would have been home by myself through my recovery, trying to follow the post-op instructions to not do any heavy lifting for two weeks is nearly impossible with a 13 month old. My parents were extremely generous and decided to fly my mom out Sunday, the 22nd, to help me fly on the 23rd back to Virginia.

Lately, part 2: VA to NC

Getting out to Virginia on Monday morning was interesting. Walking wasn't all the easy at this point so I had to be wheeled through the airport & security by an airport employee. My mom was pushing Caleb in his stroller. It almost felt like VIP treatment, bypassing lines and having someone else take care of me, however it was also slightly mortifying being wheeled through the SLC and Atlanta airports. Caleb did great on the flights and with traveling though and my mom was very attentive to both me and him. We landed in Virginia around 7pm on the 23rd.

We spent the 23-26 in Virginia. We made a few trips to the beach, did some shopping and enjoyed some yummy seafood. Between my sister, mom and dad I didn't have to worry about picking up or carrying Caleb during the rougher days of recovery. Caleb got his first introduction to sand and being in the ocean. He wasn't too sure about the texture of the sand but he loved kicking the waves.









On the 27th we drove down to my hometown of Gastonia, NC. Heather and I hadn't been home in 3 years because my parents moved to Virginia, so whenever we go to visit them we just stay in Virginia. It had been three  years since we have seen relatives and our home we grew up in. We had a lot to do in the short time we were there. We visited the essential places to eat, RO's bbq, Tonys Ice Cream, Sake Express and drove around town to see all the changes that had been made. We had a wonderful family cookout on Saturday night, we were able to visit with our sweet cousins and aunts, we haven't seen them in forever it felt like. We spent a lot of time at my Aunt Betty's, she took great care of us while we were there and even had bought so many cute toys for our kids to enjoy. We visited our home ward on Sunday and saw old friends. Then on Monday we went downtown Charlotte to Discovery Place for the kids to play. That night we had ice cream with family then played putt-putt. We crammed so much into our short visit but it was awesome! I hope we can get back there more often, I miss my relatives!





Caleb was a champion eater this trip. He never stopped wanting food, I think he had to gain a few pounds at least!









my beautiful cousin, Kelsey


Carolina blue through and through!




  
See you later, Queen City!
It was a great trip and even better, it offered the time for recovery I needed from surgery. I can't express my appreciation enough to my parents for their generosity in getting me to Virginia and helping me with Caleb!

Monday, July 9, 2012

Jumper to dress

This last weekend we were in SL looking at homes and decided to stop by the DownEast warehouse clearance store in South Salt Lake (West Hope Ave). My sis had gone there a few days ago and said they had swim suits for $12! When we went there weren't many suits in my size but I did get a tankini for $12 which is such a steal. For the last several months whenever I've gone into a DownEast I've been eying this jumpsuit. It looks so easy to wear and comfortable, but the price was always way too high for me since it would kind of be an experimental outfit. Anyway, the clearance center had the jumpsuit for only $10! Granted they only had one and I didn't know it at the time but it was probably two sizes too small (there are no dressing rooms at the center and every sale is final). I got home and tried it on..yikes. I still loved it and thought it had potential so I went to work on it. I was able to turn it into a tea-length dress and I love it!

Still would love to own this jumpsuit...just in the right size




















I think this may be my first big transformation of clothing and while I don't want to have to re-purpose all of my clothes, it is kind of fun once in a while :-)

Friday, July 6, 2012

Happenings

 We haven't been up to much lately, just enjoying the summer! Justin's new job is going well, we are still adjusting to the change in our evenings though. Whereas Justin used to be home around 5:30 and we would all eat together, I feed Caleb, prepare dinner for Justin and I then eat when he gets home around 6:30. We will play with C for a bit then put him down around 7pm. Justin doesn't get much quality time with C during the week now, mostly on the weekends. The night before C's 1st birthday though, he was totally tuckered out at 7pm (not sure what we did that day but it must have been exhausting). Caleb gave dad some 1st rate snuggle time, which is beyond rare. I don't think Caleb has cuddled/slept on us like this since he was a newborn.



On Caleb's birthday, I tried to make it a special day for him. We had breakfast & balloons, in between naps we played with bubbles (& I tried my hand at a 1st birthday photo shoot, which did not go very well). That evening we had cupcakes and attended the Strawberry Days Rodeo. It was the first time Caleb and I have been to a rodeo, kind of a fun atmosphere! When you are in that strong, country atmosphere you feel like it is the coolest thing to wear bejeweled leather outfits and ride horses around...then you leave the rodeo and reality sets back in. 













Have you ever seen such a look of determination??

And then the innocent eyes that follows the cupcake destruction


We have been frequenting the pool, blessed pool. Caleb still is so happy in the pool and I am so happy to be enjoying the sun. Justin joins us on the weekend, we love our do-whatever-we-please Saturdays.

We have also started the house hunting a bit more seriously, we have contacted a realtor even! There are still so many unknowns...mostly where he want to live exactly. But that is also taking up our evenings, searching for homes online and then driving around areas on the weekend. Utah doesn't really offer our preferred, traditional/colonial two-story (brick) home, we are mostly seeing split levels (eck), but we will probably end of living in a split level, compromise is the name of the game! At least we are living in a beautiful area with family nearby.

Hope everyone is enjoying their summer, it is going by super fast. I know what comes next, so I am really trying to enjoy these long summer days as much as possible!